Be Kind to Yourself: Top 10 Ways to Boost Your Mindset!

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Last updated on October 2nd, 2025 at 04:24 pm

Are you looking to boost your mindset by learning to be kind to yourself?

Here are 10 powerful tips to help you get started.

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What does it mean to be kind to yourself?

Are you curious about kindness towards yourself? Well, a study found that self-compassion is the way you see yourself, especially in moments of discomfort.

This is important to bear in mind because it affects the way you show up and show out to the world; you need to remember that it starts with you.

After all, how can you give compassion to others if it’s foreign to you? Also, it’s a big component in developing a healthy relationship with yourself.

With that being said, let’s get into 10 tips I’ve come up with that will help improve your self-compassion.

Why is being kind important to yourself?

Compassion is a beautiful concept. It’s a way of extending kindness that eventually extends to others.

This is particularly important because, as humans, we don’t just exist for ourselves.

This is important because God created all of us to extend a helping hand to others in one way or another.

We can’t do that without learning how to be kind to ourselves. This continues to be a lesson for me.

10 Simple tips to be kind to yourself daily

1. Establish your sense of identity through learning to be kind to yourself

First, it’s important to get to know who you are. And the act of kindness to self may be just the tool you need to do just that.

Self-compassion starts with how you treat yourself because you’re with yourself 100% of the time.

So, if you don’t know who you are, how can you be compassionate towards others and not towards yourself?

Look to what God says about you. He made you, and they know full well that he gave you your full identity.

2. Remember that you’re special

Another good place to start is to start learning about the love He has for you.

Simple things like remembering that the number of hairs on your head is counted can make anyone feel special.

Could you take time out to count your hair? Well, I certainly couldn’t.

Also, consider making a list of all those things that make you feel loved.

Remember that self-awareness of those qualities plays a role in learning how to be kind to yourself.

Learn more from my blog post about how to become more self-aware below.

Another important point is to remember that there is only one you.

3. Focus on your great qualities that encourage you to be kind to yourself

You’ve probably heard of the SWOT (Strengths, Weaknesses, Opportunities, and Threats) analysis.

This is typically used in formal settings, like businesses, to establish how the organization can shine in the face of competition.

So, with your journey to exercising self-love tips, it’s important to also look at the strengths you have. A positive mindset shift is important here.

So, what are your strengths? Are you well-spoken? Confident? Do you just have a heart of gold or exceptionally organized?

Write it down in your journal or list it out.

4. Be kind to yourself by seeking help

If you seem unsure about what your strengths are, my first advice would be to seek your Creator and ask Him what your good qualities are.

Also, consider asking your loved ones who know you quite well. Once you have found out, consider journaling down what you have found out.

So, take time out just to absorb those qualities. They form a part of making you an awesome person who could spread love and light to the world.

5. Look at your weaknesses so you can understand how to be kind to yourself

Well, with strengths comes the inevitable part of having weaknesses. Please don’t be afraid to go down this route, too.

This exercise isn’t to create a space to bash yourself. We’re not about that self-hating life in this community.

But rather, it’s about looking at your weaknesses from a place of neutrality and acceptance.

After all, we were not made to be perfect, and no matter how much you try, perfection will always seem like a goalpost that is being pushed further and further.

Your weakness also makes up part of your identity.

6. Balance it out

These qualities are there to balance out who you are. Here is another bonus. Weaknesses make space for you to welcome compassion from others.

It’s okay to be yourself. None of us was made to be perfect at all, and maybe that’s a good thing.

How else can we to have self-kindness towards ourselves if we were spick and span all the time?

7. Be okay with your ‘imperfectly perfect’ list

Write down the honest things you see in yourself, even ones you may not like. For example, write down things like, ‘I’m a master procrastinator, or ‘I struggle with confidence’.

It could vary to the point where you might feel like you are your own worst critic (I feel you). That’s okay.

The whole point is to make peace with your imperfections, not punish yourself for having them.

8. Most importantly, forgive yourself

I’m pretty sure we have heard about the importance of forgiving others.

Usually, the struggle that comes with forgiving others may come from a root cause of your struggle to forgive yourself.

That was the case for me. I think out of all these exercises so far, this one seems to be the most difficult of all.

Trust me, I know.

It has been said that unforgiveness is so dangerous that it can create unrealistic expectations of expecting to see the other person suffer for the pain you feel they caused you.

Even though you may be justified as you may feel, it’s not worth imprisoning yourself or others over the past.

There is no room for compassion where there is unforgiveness.

9. Next: change the way you talk to yourself

Consider changing how you talk to yourself.

I’ve often found myself in a place where, when I was being unkind to myself, it was evident in the way I thought and spoke about myself.

If you’re not careful, this could be a bad habit. This was a tough one for me, and it was assumed for many of us.

Before we become kind to others, we need to learn to be kind to ourselves.

Otherwise, you won’t be able to be compassionate to others.

10. Make room for a kindness mindset in your life

Once the most important steps are not only forgiving yourself, but also embracing a fresh start.

This creates space for good things, like love and compassion. As a result, you may be in a space to learn to receive kindness that other people may extend to you.

This could happen in many ways.

Whether someone is willing to help you with a certain task, learn to accept it by saying ‘thank you’ instead of saying things like ‘You honestly don’t have to help me’.

If that person was willing to help you, it must mean they wanted to.

Choose to enter the space of gratitude.

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Conclusion

Learning to be kind to yourself is important to have a mental wellness glow-up. I hope I made this self-care mindset easy for you to implement.

Simple self-compassion tips like embracing your strong qualities, making peace with your weaknesses, and positive self-talk are important to embrace the serenity that compassion brings.

Now I want to hear from you. In what ways do you practice kindness to yourself? Share and inspire others in the comments below.

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Until next time, please take care.